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Around half the population of the United States woke up on Wednesday morning to enormous disappointment. In a stunning upset, Donald Trump defeated Hillary Clinton in the race for president, leaving Trump supporters elated and many Clinton backers devastated.

But in my work as a coach, I've found that even the most crushing defeats can ultimately be channeled into energy for forging ahead. Regaining confidence is an uphill battle, and it takes a crowd—or at least two people, talking things out—to pull an someone out of a funk. Here's how it can be done.

We all want to be more confident-it's a personal quality that helps us build strong relationships with others, get things done, and move forward in our work and life. However, sometimes we can go overboard, and our confidence can become something much darker: arrogance.

In their book, Why Leaders Fail, authors Peter Stark and Mary Kelly explain how leaders sabotage themselves-and their organizations-when they project arrogance instead of confidence. According to the authors, the defining factor of a strong leader is rooted in the relationships he or she builds with followers, and how effectively he or she propels the organization toward great achievement.

Need a rapid-fire self-esteem boost in the next five minutes? While we all know that true inner confidence takes time and practice, sometimes we just need something with immediate effects. Here are seven ways to instantly build your confidence that you can use anytime, anyplace.

1. Pay attention to your posture

Stand or sit up straight. Flatten out your lower back. Let your shoulders fall down broadly by your sides. Even if you don't have enough time to change anything else about your appearance, shifting your posture is enough to make a huge difference.

2. Smile

Our brains are wired in an interesting feedback cycle that allows us to tell our muscles what to do--but it's also a cycle that reacts based on what our muscles actually do themselves. If we do something that is associated with an emotion, the action itself will somehow trigger the same emotion in our brains.

3. Give yourself a pep talk 

Pep talks can feel forced, especially if you're giving one to yourself. There is, however, a method to the madness: Telling yourself you're great is an easy way to remind yourself you are. Go through some of the positive qualities you value most about who you are. You'll feel like a million bucks in a couple seconds.